A trip to Denver is looming and we have been in a hurry to get things taken care of so we can go. New tires for the jeep, Christmas presents, warm clothing, stuff for the house while we are gone and other odds and ends. At the same time my independent woman has been finishing some of her school work and getting ready for her test. This had made little time for affection giving or receiving. My good girl and myself have passed the honeymoon period of the relationship and are okay with things getting hectic and little relationship time, but my independent woman is not past this area and has been feeling neglected the past two weeks and getting frustrated. She knows it is illogical but the heart down not understand logic. I have tried to make things go well for her and I am not sure the attempts were getting though. In the past few weeks we have be going out to eat and I have been trying to bring her in to conversations. I know I am not always the best at it and my attempts to show her she is important have been failing.
This afternoon we started to work things out on how we can make things better. I will be at first spending one night a week in her room. This will be interesting as she sleeps with things going on in the background like television and I prefer a nice quite room to sleep in, hence the reason for the separate rooms.
this relationship is just as important to me as the one with my good girl and I am going to do what it takes to get things working well. It will take time and work but any good relationship does.
Friday, October 29, 2010
Saturday, October 23, 2010
We All Live in a Yellow Sub..er Apartment.
also is is more red instead of yellow....
A huge mile stone has been passed. Come next week my Kayaks are being moved it to storage and a bed is coming in. My independent woman will be moving in. Well she all ready really has moved in but now the rest of her stuff is coming over. This is going to go a long way to helping her emotional health as well as making all of us feel closer as a family. family can be a stressful thing and even more stressful when you can not pick your first family. Getting the chance to go from your family you had as a child to the family you make as an adult is a great thing and getting to share that experience with the independent woman is a special thing.
Speaking of family my good girl and me have started to take a little one very seriously. We have been doing the day count method with no success and now got a BBT thermometer. We started taking her temperature and say the temperature spike. The spike happened before the time we counted for her ovulation by a few days and Knowing that things needs to waiting for the egg before the temperature spike we have been missing the time frame. We have also picked up ovulation kits which we are going to start using next moth to determine when she actually does ovulate. All three of us are excited about the idea of a little one and the independent woman is gleeful at the idea of having a little one. Due to my past experiences a little one is a scary thing but I am also looking forward to this more and more as we take steps closer and closer to the day we have conception.
A huge mile stone has been passed. Come next week my Kayaks are being moved it to storage and a bed is coming in. My independent woman will be moving in. Well she all ready really has moved in but now the rest of her stuff is coming over. This is going to go a long way to helping her emotional health as well as making all of us feel closer as a family. family can be a stressful thing and even more stressful when you can not pick your first family. Getting the chance to go from your family you had as a child to the family you make as an adult is a great thing and getting to share that experience with the independent woman is a special thing.
Speaking of family my good girl and me have started to take a little one very seriously. We have been doing the day count method with no success and now got a BBT thermometer. We started taking her temperature and say the temperature spike. The spike happened before the time we counted for her ovulation by a few days and Knowing that things needs to waiting for the egg before the temperature spike we have been missing the time frame. We have also picked up ovulation kits which we are going to start using next moth to determine when she actually does ovulate. All three of us are excited about the idea of a little one and the independent woman is gleeful at the idea of having a little one. Due to my past experiences a little one is a scary thing but I am also looking forward to this more and more as we take steps closer and closer to the day we have conception.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Interrupted by virus
okay so the plan was for a long stay but unfortunately it was interrupted by the flu. My independent woman got it and we needed to take care of her and make her feel all better and then get her off to her home so she could get healthy and off to school. Sick happens; it is nothing to get upset about and things will get put on hold for next week right? WRONG... My good girl and myself got the flu and were sick that next week. My independent woman was good and took care of us while we were bed ridden. This did not lend well to getting her emotional needs taken care of the past two weeks but we are going to do that.
Being poly has its trials on of which is making sure every body gets the proper amount of attention where it is just about them. My good girl has an advantage here as she lives in the apartment with me so she can get me times when ever where as things need to get planned out for my independent woman. The living situation is going to change at some point and we are all ready making plans for it. The spare bedroom is storage for my kayaks right now. It was a goo place for them when I moved in but now they are in the way. I have found a place to store them and just need to move them there. The plan is to move them after I get back from dealing with some court issues back in Colorado (ex tenants want their $800 damage deposit back even though it was a few thousand dollar repair) in early November. So she will have her own room all her own when she visits and it will be ready for when it is time for her to move in. I know that it is odd to sleep in separate rooms with your lover but in this case it is about sleeping habits. My good girl and myself sleep with every thing but a fan off where as the independent woman sleeps with there being a TV or something on for her comfort. by having the separate rooms it allows us to sleep our best. Of course with the second bedroom being taken up by my independent woman if a kid does happen to come along we are going to have to find a bigger place.
Being poly has its trials on of which is making sure every body gets the proper amount of attention where it is just about them. My good girl has an advantage here as she lives in the apartment with me so she can get me times when ever where as things need to get planned out for my independent woman. The living situation is going to change at some point and we are all ready making plans for it. The spare bedroom is storage for my kayaks right now. It was a goo place for them when I moved in but now they are in the way. I have found a place to store them and just need to move them there. The plan is to move them after I get back from dealing with some court issues back in Colorado (ex tenants want their $800 damage deposit back even though it was a few thousand dollar repair) in early November. So she will have her own room all her own when she visits and it will be ready for when it is time for her to move in. I know that it is odd to sleep in separate rooms with your lover but in this case it is about sleeping habits. My good girl and myself sleep with every thing but a fan off where as the independent woman sleeps with there being a TV or something on for her comfort. by having the separate rooms it allows us to sleep our best. Of course with the second bedroom being taken up by my independent woman if a kid does happen to come along we are going to have to find a bigger place.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
long stay
Yesterday was the start of a long stay my independent woman. My good girl wanted to know how well things will work out on a longer term biases so we asked the independent woman to stay over from Friday until Wednesday/Thursday. So far things are going well. Of course as it is during my period of work I am not going to be involved much until Tuesday as I work and sleep over the weekends for the most part. We did get 5 guys and fries today and then Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory for dinner today but that was a fast thing.
This is going to be an interesting week and I look forward to finding out out it goes for both women.
OH yea one more thing. They are both on their period this weekend. As far as being a guy I thinking the fact I am working and sleeping is a good thing. Hard to be wrong that way but I am sure I still will be.... J/K both women are good during this time but it will be interesting to see what happens.
This is going to be an interesting week and I look forward to finding out out it goes for both women.
OH yea one more thing. They are both on their period this weekend. As far as being a guy I thinking the fact I am working and sleeping is a good thing. Hard to be wrong that way but I am sure I still will be.... J/K both women are good during this time but it will be interesting to see what happens.
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Getting Ganged up on
This happened during our trip but I felt it needed its own post.
I talk with my old girlfriends. just because the relationship did not work out does not mean there is not some sort of connection between us. I still have feeling for these women but they are tempered with the fact that I know that living together in a romantic relationship is not healthily for ether one of us. This attachment and continued contact with my ex girlfriends caused a gang up on me and I do admit it was called for.
my last ex and I have been working to get together for lunch or dinner at some point and we were talking about it for last week. I did not make a firm commitment as I was not sure if I could make it and I needed to talk with my women about it first. My good girl is okay with it but my independent woman has issues. Both women agree it should not be a just me visit. While talking about the visit with my ex she asked if I could stay the night. after some talking I discovered that she was wanting to have sex on the visit. I admit that I do miss the sex we had but the relationship had issues and there are things that would not work. Number one is that she needs to have another relationship outside of me but does not want me to have a relationship with my good girl. I am not a cuck and was not happy with this. When I mention that both my ex and my good girl would need to be romantically involved the ex tells me she can not share me. I did not even mention my independent woman as I know that would not go over well at all. My ex believes that my independent woman is going to cause issues with the law for me. The conversation with the ex works it way n to what she needs in a relationship and the discussion on the visit is tabled and we do not get back to it. The ex needed to go and we never got back to the visit.
As there was no commitment made for the visit I went on the road trip for with my two women. during the drive my ex calls and is upset because I am not going to visit even though I said I would. I had not made a commitment and reminded her of that and proceeded to have a small argument in from of my current girl friends. The ex quickly hung up and the aftermath of the call did not go well for me.
My good girl is upset. she radiates annoyance and I ask her to talk about it. She feels blindsided about the visit and as such is agitated. I go on and mention that the ex also wanted to have sex on the visit and that did not go well at all. I hear that the ex is not respecting the fact that what we had is gone and the ex is also not respecting the relationships I currently have. The independent woman also mentions that she feels that even though the relationship is over I am still hers and the other women do not matter. They think I am missing the subtly of her tyring to manipulate me into getting back together with her. I am happy in my life now and I am told by the ex she is happy where she is at. I feel that I am being lied to by her again. If she happy where she is why would she be trying to get together this is not the first time she has lied to me. In fact the relationship with the ex started on a lie and I was lied too other times; this is just the tip of issues I had in a relationship with her. I do not plan to get back in a relationship with her and even though I miss the sex I know it is not something I can do.
Both of the women in life have a right to be upset I should have mentioned the her wanting me to visit before then so they were not blindsided by the call. I did not make any commitments to the ex and it did not occur to me to mention it to them. I reassured them I am not going anywhere and not looking to get back with the ex. they are my life now and I am happy with they way my life is. I will not give up my life with them for the life of where I had issues on what seems like an every day biases.
My good girl has apologized for ganging up on me about the issue but I have told them it is okay in this case. They both need to express them self and if I do something that upsets them both I just get it two fold. I am a big guy and I can take it and fully expect to be ganged up on again in the future and more than just a few times.
I talk with my old girlfriends. just because the relationship did not work out does not mean there is not some sort of connection between us. I still have feeling for these women but they are tempered with the fact that I know that living together in a romantic relationship is not healthily for ether one of us. This attachment and continued contact with my ex girlfriends caused a gang up on me and I do admit it was called for.
my last ex and I have been working to get together for lunch or dinner at some point and we were talking about it for last week. I did not make a firm commitment as I was not sure if I could make it and I needed to talk with my women about it first. My good girl is okay with it but my independent woman has issues. Both women agree it should not be a just me visit. While talking about the visit with my ex she asked if I could stay the night. after some talking I discovered that she was wanting to have sex on the visit. I admit that I do miss the sex we had but the relationship had issues and there are things that would not work. Number one is that she needs to have another relationship outside of me but does not want me to have a relationship with my good girl. I am not a cuck and was not happy with this. When I mention that both my ex and my good girl would need to be romantically involved the ex tells me she can not share me. I did not even mention my independent woman as I know that would not go over well at all. My ex believes that my independent woman is going to cause issues with the law for me. The conversation with the ex works it way n to what she needs in a relationship and the discussion on the visit is tabled and we do not get back to it. The ex needed to go and we never got back to the visit.
As there was no commitment made for the visit I went on the road trip for with my two women. during the drive my ex calls and is upset because I am not going to visit even though I said I would. I had not made a commitment and reminded her of that and proceeded to have a small argument in from of my current girl friends. The ex quickly hung up and the aftermath of the call did not go well for me.
My good girl is upset. she radiates annoyance and I ask her to talk about it. She feels blindsided about the visit and as such is agitated. I go on and mention that the ex also wanted to have sex on the visit and that did not go well at all. I hear that the ex is not respecting the fact that what we had is gone and the ex is also not respecting the relationships I currently have. The independent woman also mentions that she feels that even though the relationship is over I am still hers and the other women do not matter. They think I am missing the subtly of her tyring to manipulate me into getting back together with her. I am happy in my life now and I am told by the ex she is happy where she is at. I feel that I am being lied to by her again. If she happy where she is why would she be trying to get together this is not the first time she has lied to me. In fact the relationship with the ex started on a lie and I was lied too other times; this is just the tip of issues I had in a relationship with her. I do not plan to get back in a relationship with her and even though I miss the sex I know it is not something I can do.
Both of the women in life have a right to be upset I should have mentioned the her wanting me to visit before then so they were not blindsided by the call. I did not make any commitments to the ex and it did not occur to me to mention it to them. I reassured them I am not going anywhere and not looking to get back with the ex. they are my life now and I am happy with they way my life is. I will not give up my life with them for the life of where I had issues on what seems like an every day biases.
My good girl has apologized for ganging up on me about the issue but I have told them it is okay in this case. They both need to express them self and if I do something that upsets them both I just get it two fold. I am a big guy and I can take it and fully expect to be ganged up on again in the future and more than just a few times.
Being Spontaneous
My good girl was feeling cooped up, She had a bit of the cabin fever and wanted to get out. As I was not adverse to being out in the world that day we decide to go drive with the destination of west and an ETA of whenever. These are my favorite types of trips. You never know when you are going to get there or where you are going to be when you get there.
We stopped to pick up the 3rd in our relationship and it surprised my independent woman. This is not exactly something she is used to. She has not had us just show up before nor has she ever just drove just to drive. She was asleep when we got to her place so it took a bit for her to get ready and it gave me a chance to get the two dogs out and let them explore the park next to her place a bit. It is going to be a long trip and they need to stretch their paws as well.
We leave and hit the road. My independent woman is trying to grasp the point of the why for awhile. My good girl and I explain the point of the trip is the trip itself. We are driving to have a good time, no other agenda just go. To see places we have not been before. My independent woman get the idea and asks so if that is the plane we should not take the same route back. This is a great idea. When I drive I normally do take the same path back but as this is Tuesday, the cats can take care of them self's and I do not have to be back at work till Thursday this seems like a good idea. If we get lost we can always find our way back in time.
We drive down I90 for awhile and end up at the Illinois and Wisconsin boarder heading north. We decide that it is time to fix our course and keep gong west. We left the interstate and hit the state highways. State highways are the way to really get to see a place. The interstates are good for getting some where fats but you do not really get to see the places that make a place special. the out of the way spots that are just incredible. You need to be willing to go local to get that.
We drive for awhile and end up in a Town called Galena. This is a great spot and happens to be the site of President Grant's home. It was too late in the day to visit but it was a good time for dinner. We drive around the town a bit looking for something local. We made this trip why eat at some place we can get at home. On main street there is a small little place called the Victory Cafe. It a nice Americana cooking and they use the old world war II victory posters as the theme. It would have been nice if the used real ones and not reprints but it was not a big deal. They did have original painting from a local artist of local scenes which were amazing. It was a nice restaurant with good food except for the vegetables. They spend a great deal of care and attention to the main food and gives us what is best described as Bird's Eye frozen vegetables. I am not saying they are bad but they were a disappointment to what otherwise was a good meal.
Back in the Grand Cherokee and over the great river. I get to share my love of the Mississippi river with my two women. I love the river and its history I have spent little time on it but it is part of me it flows though my heart and pulls me to it. Someday I will touch her waters and commune with her but not today.
Night falls and we follow the river on the Iowa side down to I-80 and then take I-80 back home. It is late and my independent woman is asleep in the back with the puppies so my good girl and I sing to a group I have on my I-phone. The group is a bunch of rennies who sing pirate songs, The Corsairs. They are no longer together but their stuff can still be bought. It is fin music and worth a listen.
we make it in the the Chicago area and my good girl and myself are exhausted. The independent woman takes over the driving and I am out of it for the rest of the trip home. We make it in shower and then off to bed for us for a good deep sleep.
It was a good trip and a great bonding experience for all three of us. I look forward to many more fun things with my two women as time goes on.
We stopped to pick up the 3rd in our relationship and it surprised my independent woman. This is not exactly something she is used to. She has not had us just show up before nor has she ever just drove just to drive. She was asleep when we got to her place so it took a bit for her to get ready and it gave me a chance to get the two dogs out and let them explore the park next to her place a bit. It is going to be a long trip and they need to stretch their paws as well.
We leave and hit the road. My independent woman is trying to grasp the point of the why for awhile. My good girl and I explain the point of the trip is the trip itself. We are driving to have a good time, no other agenda just go. To see places we have not been before. My independent woman get the idea and asks so if that is the plane we should not take the same route back. This is a great idea. When I drive I normally do take the same path back but as this is Tuesday, the cats can take care of them self's and I do not have to be back at work till Thursday this seems like a good idea. If we get lost we can always find our way back in time.
We drive down I90 for awhile and end up at the Illinois and Wisconsin boarder heading north. We decide that it is time to fix our course and keep gong west. We left the interstate and hit the state highways. State highways are the way to really get to see a place. The interstates are good for getting some where fats but you do not really get to see the places that make a place special. the out of the way spots that are just incredible. You need to be willing to go local to get that.
We drive for awhile and end up in a Town called Galena. This is a great spot and happens to be the site of President Grant's home. It was too late in the day to visit but it was a good time for dinner. We drive around the town a bit looking for something local. We made this trip why eat at some place we can get at home. On main street there is a small little place called the Victory Cafe. It a nice Americana cooking and they use the old world war II victory posters as the theme. It would have been nice if the used real ones and not reprints but it was not a big deal. They did have original painting from a local artist of local scenes which were amazing. It was a nice restaurant with good food except for the vegetables. They spend a great deal of care and attention to the main food and gives us what is best described as Bird's Eye frozen vegetables. I am not saying they are bad but they were a disappointment to what otherwise was a good meal.
Back in the Grand Cherokee and over the great river. I get to share my love of the Mississippi river with my two women. I love the river and its history I have spent little time on it but it is part of me it flows though my heart and pulls me to it. Someday I will touch her waters and commune with her but not today.
Night falls and we follow the river on the Iowa side down to I-80 and then take I-80 back home. It is late and my independent woman is asleep in the back with the puppies so my good girl and I sing to a group I have on my I-phone. The group is a bunch of rennies who sing pirate songs, The Corsairs. They are no longer together but their stuff can still be bought. It is fin music and worth a listen.
we make it in the the Chicago area and my good girl and myself are exhausted. The independent woman takes over the driving and I am out of it for the rest of the trip home. We make it in shower and then off to bed for us for a good deep sleep.
It was a good trip and a great bonding experience for all three of us. I look forward to many more fun things with my two women as time goes on.
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